Don't Sit Around Waiting for Them, Invest in Yourself

When we have broken up with our boyfriend or girlfriend, our natural reaction is to sit around all remorseful and depressed. If you are sincere about getting back together with your ex, the best thing you can do is invest in yourself. The following article explains why:


If your relationship is in danger of breaking up, you need to take some time and invest in yourself. All too often, the concerns of jobs, children and aging relatives take a toll on what once was a great relationship. Even if a break up seems imminent, investing time in yourself will pay off in terms of increased well-being and self-esteem. When you think back to the beginning of your relationship, weren't you feeling good about yourself and everything around you? You can get that feeling back by taking the time to recharge.

It seems counter intuitive that taking time for yourself is just what is needed when a relationship break up is looming, but it shouldn't be. All too often, couples spend too much time together when a little break would do them the world of good. This doesn't have to be anything long-term--just a couple of hours can do wonders for rejuvenating your spirits. Pick up that novel you've been dying to read; go to the movie that your partner has no interest in either by yourself or with a friend; take a continuing education class in something that interests you; or go visit a family member that you haven't seen in a while. Lock yourself in the bath with a glass of wine and some candles; spoil yourself a little.

If you invest in yourself in terms of time and maybe even a little money (how about a great new haircut?) you will reap dividends in feeling better about yourself, and being a more interesting partner. If you never get a break from each other, how can you ever have anything interesting to say to each other? Having interests and hobbies apart from your partner helps keep your relationship fresh and interesting. If you're a sports fanatic, treat yourself to a game of golf or participate in a softball game with your friends. It's okay not to be attached at the hip with your partner.

If you want your relationship to thrive and avoid the potential of break ups, take the time you need for yourself to be invigorated and engaged. You'll be excited to share your day with your partner instead of wondering what you can talk about. It's more than okay to take some time to be alone to keep yourselves together for the long haul.

Jen Thomas writes on relationships and how to prevent breakups. For her best tips on how you can avoid breaking up or even how to get back together after a breakup, visit her site here. If you want to stay together, Jen has the answers for you--common sense stuff, no psychobabble here!

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