Your Ex Dating Someone Else Isn't a Death Knell for Your Relationship

One of the most common concerns for anyone who has broken up with their loved one and who would like to get back together with them is finding out that their ex is dating someone else. In this article, I discuss why this isn't necessarily a death-knell for your relationship:


Your girl or guy is already dating someone else soon after your break up, or maybe you've even caught them out with someone else before you officially break up. You probably think that this is the final sign that there is absolutely no hope for your relationship. Not so fast! Did you know that 90% of all rebound relationships fail? Usually, this is because the rebound relationship is founded solely on physical attraction, and is lacking the pillars of a good relationship. Like a house built in sand, rebound relationships soon fall apart.

When couples break up, there are usually faults on both parties sides why the relationship isn't working. Guys tend to stop paying any attention to their girls, preferring instead to "slob around" with their buddies drinking beer and playing hours of video games. What lady wouldn't get tired of that scene! Now, it's healthy for a guy to spend some time with their buddies blowing off a little steam, but when the buddies start taking priority over your lady every time, she has good reason to break up with you. You've taken her for granted, assumed that she will always be there, no matter what. Guess what? You thought wrong! You don't have to be out wining and dining your lady every night, but you do have to give her a little one-on-one attention so she feels special. Why not cook her dinner for a change or pick up some take out and treat her to that DVD she has been wanting to see? For not a lot of money or time, you have invested in your relationship and made your lady feel special. If you can't or won't take the time and effort to make your lady feel special, she'll soon find someone else who will.

Ladies, have you been playing the jealousy game with your man? You know what I'm talking about--having hissy fits if he so much as looks at another girl. This is so lame, and gets old fast for your man. Instead of railing on your man, why don't you look inside yourself and ask why you feel so insecure? Are you trying your best to get him to break up with you? Is your man really a cheater, or do you feel so bad about yourself that you view every other woman as a threat, even the 90-year-old who lives next door to your man? Get a grip on yourself and focus on what makes you a special person. You have to have confidence in yourself before you even think about being in a relationship, rebound or not! If you continue to act irrationally jealous, you will drive your man into the arms of another girl, guaranteed.

So if you have been neglecting your partner, acting jealous or petty to the point they have left and started a new relationship, does that really mean it's over? Not necessarily. As mentioned above, rebound relationships fail 90% of the time. If you can work on yourself, examining why your partner broke up with you--yes, it's really NOT all their fault, you can begin the work of rebuilding your relationship. If you're not ready to do some serious work on yourself, however, your break up might be for good.

Jen Thomas writes on relationships and how to prevent breakups. For her best tips on how you can avoid breaking up or even how to get back together after a breakup, visit her site here. If you want to stay together, Jen has the answers for you--common sense stuff, no psychobabble here!

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