It may be hard to believe, but when your ex gets involved in a rebound relationship right after you break up with them, it can be a hopeful sign that all is not lost in your hope that you will get back together with your ex. Read on to learn more about the rebound phenomenon:
When anyone suddenly breaks off a relationship and quickly jumps into the next one, that is a sign that they want to be in a relationship, but do not want to see their part in the failure of the first relationship. Many people are afraid to be on their own for any length of time because they are afraid of the hard work and self-examination that comes with growing as a person. If they simply broke up with their partner and spent some time on their own, they would have to admit that they are not the "injured party"--they would soon see that they had just as many annoying traits and bad habits as their ex does!
If you are the unlucky person who is on the receiving end of watching their ex in a rebound relationship, don't despair. Take the time apart to really think about your own role in the the demise of your relationship. For instance, did you spend hours zoned out in front of your X-box instead of taking the time for conversation with your ex, or were you the kind of person who spent hours on your cell with your friends, but could never find the time to tell your ex how much they meant to you? Carefully examine yourself as to your own part in the failure of the relationship, and understand what you need to do to change and avoid this type of behavior in the future.
Watch your ex carefully at this time. He or she will probably go out with a person who is the opposite of your type, because that is exactly what he or she felt they were missing in your own relationship with them. If you are a quiet, gentle guy, she will probably be going out with a bad-boy type, because she felt that there was no excitement in your relationship. If you are a lady who dresses in an overly flashy manner, and loves to dominate every conversation, don't be surprised if he is now going out with a more conservative and quiet woman. Learn from the kind of person they are in the rebound relationship with, and adopt some of their traits as your own. Be yourself, but try to incorporate some balancing traits in your behavior. Spice it up, or tone it down to be more attractive to your ex.
Usually, it doesn't take long for your ex to see that their new partner has flaws of their own, and that the rebound relationship was a mistake. They were attracted to you for a reason, and dating someone of the opposite type can be exciting at first, but can get very grating quickly. Just don't make the mistake of pleading and begging your ex to take you back at this point, or make the case that you've really changed. Take it slowly, and apologize sincerely for any past wrongs you have committed, but do not grovel to them. Work on improving yourself during the separation, and your ex will come to realize that you've had everything they've wanted all along.
When anyone suddenly breaks off a relationship and quickly jumps into the next one, that is a sign that they want to be in a relationship, but do not want to see their part in the failure of the first relationship. Many people are afraid to be on their own for any length of time because they are afraid of the hard work and self-examination that comes with growing as a person. If they simply broke up with their partner and spent some time on their own, they would have to admit that they are not the "injured party"--they would soon see that they had just as many annoying traits and bad habits as their ex does!
If you are the unlucky person who is on the receiving end of watching their ex in a rebound relationship, don't despair. Take the time apart to really think about your own role in the the demise of your relationship. For instance, did you spend hours zoned out in front of your X-box instead of taking the time for conversation with your ex, or were you the kind of person who spent hours on your cell with your friends, but could never find the time to tell your ex how much they meant to you? Carefully examine yourself as to your own part in the failure of the relationship, and understand what you need to do to change and avoid this type of behavior in the future.
Watch your ex carefully at this time. He or she will probably go out with a person who is the opposite of your type, because that is exactly what he or she felt they were missing in your own relationship with them. If you are a quiet, gentle guy, she will probably be going out with a bad-boy type, because she felt that there was no excitement in your relationship. If you are a lady who dresses in an overly flashy manner, and loves to dominate every conversation, don't be surprised if he is now going out with a more conservative and quiet woman. Learn from the kind of person they are in the rebound relationship with, and adopt some of their traits as your own. Be yourself, but try to incorporate some balancing traits in your behavior. Spice it up, or tone it down to be more attractive to your ex.
Usually, it doesn't take long for your ex to see that their new partner has flaws of their own, and that the rebound relationship was a mistake. They were attracted to you for a reason, and dating someone of the opposite type can be exciting at first, but can get very grating quickly. Just don't make the mistake of pleading and begging your ex to take you back at this point, or make the case that you've really changed. Take it slowly, and apologize sincerely for any past wrongs you have committed, but do not grovel to them. Work on improving yourself during the separation, and your ex will come to realize that you've had everything they've wanted all along.
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